Dear listeners,
I have been a diary keeper for most of my adult life, starting at 13 years old, and that was 15 years ago. I have recently stopped keeping a diary, something that has helped me deal with my day-to-day issues, and something that has been an outlet when I had feelings and issues I couldn't share with anyone else. It was like a friend to me, as I even wrote good news when it happened and discussed dreams. Now, I have stopped, partly because I don't have time anymore, and partly because my deep dark secrets were revealed once and my fears of getting caught were just too big to go on.
But now, about one year later, I don't want to spill horrible feelings in a journal anymore. Since some time now, I have been feeling a little down (sometimes a lot), a little depressed and often unhappy about the life I have. It's a sad thought, but what's even sadder is that I can't pinpoint what makes me feel this way . I am 28 years old and since a few years, I think I have been having my quarter-life crisis - the one where you don't know who you are, what you want, you wonder if you've chosen the right career path and the right partner, whether there is going to be more for you than the boring routine you've settled for.
I don't know if everyone goes through this crisis, but I think many people do. I imagine it must happen when you choose a career path, or when you start getting settled in your first real job, or when you realize you have been in the same routine for a long time. For me, I have done a bachelor's degree and a master's degree, totaling 6 years of university studies, and have been working for about 3 and a half years now, and I am officially in a set daily routine, and have been for more than 2 years.
Honestly, I don't know why I can't be grateful - I have a steady job with a decent salary, a house, a loving boyfriend, an adorable pet, some pretty good friends, a loving family, I have the chance to go on amazing trips, and most importantly I am healthy. Yet I feel like I've got my life all wrong, like I screwed up somewhere and can't figure out what's missing. I have all these good things that I should be happy for but that I don't appreciate. When I make the list of "good things" in my life, I have no joyful happy feelings. And more often than not, in my life, I tend to focus on the bad.
What I've heard is that you don't know what you've got until it's gone. But...is that the only way to know what you've got? To be happy? To make the best of life? I hope not. It can't be!
The reason I started this blog is to start focusing on the good stuff. I know there are a lot of blogs out there about happiness and inspiration, and finding and following your dreams, and I intend on finding my own list of favorites. I named this blog after my favorite things: kittens, pretty things (such as ribbons) and desserts (e.g. pie) - the blog title was "Kittens, Ribbons and Pie, Oh My!" - , as they are things that make me happy. It will be a sort-of yellow-brick road to happiness and self-acceptance. I want to train myself to focus on the good things in life. In the same way you train a dog to behave, you teach your children the ways of the world, and you learn math & physics at university, I'm sure you can learn to give, to be thankful, to be happy with what you've got, to love others openly and unconditionally, and especially to love yourself.
In the next months, I'm going to :
So, here's to happiness!
Love,
Miss K
I have been a diary keeper for most of my adult life, starting at 13 years old, and that was 15 years ago. I have recently stopped keeping a diary, something that has helped me deal with my day-to-day issues, and something that has been an outlet when I had feelings and issues I couldn't share with anyone else. It was like a friend to me, as I even wrote good news when it happened and discussed dreams. Now, I have stopped, partly because I don't have time anymore, and partly because my deep dark secrets were revealed once and my fears of getting caught were just too big to go on.
But now, about one year later, I don't want to spill horrible feelings in a journal anymore. Since some time now, I have been feeling a little down (sometimes a lot), a little depressed and often unhappy about the life I have. It's a sad thought, but what's even sadder is that I can't pinpoint what makes me feel this way . I am 28 years old and since a few years, I think I have been having my quarter-life crisis - the one where you don't know who you are, what you want, you wonder if you've chosen the right career path and the right partner, whether there is going to be more for you than the boring routine you've settled for.
I don't know if everyone goes through this crisis, but I think many people do. I imagine it must happen when you choose a career path, or when you start getting settled in your first real job, or when you realize you have been in the same routine for a long time. For me, I have done a bachelor's degree and a master's degree, totaling 6 years of university studies, and have been working for about 3 and a half years now, and I am officially in a set daily routine, and have been for more than 2 years.
Honestly, I don't know why I can't be grateful - I have a steady job with a decent salary, a house, a loving boyfriend, an adorable pet, some pretty good friends, a loving family, I have the chance to go on amazing trips, and most importantly I am healthy. Yet I feel like I've got my life all wrong, like I screwed up somewhere and can't figure out what's missing. I have all these good things that I should be happy for but that I don't appreciate. When I make the list of "good things" in my life, I have no joyful happy feelings. And more often than not, in my life, I tend to focus on the bad.
What I've heard is that you don't know what you've got until it's gone. But...is that the only way to know what you've got? To be happy? To make the best of life? I hope not. It can't be!
The reason I started this blog is to start focusing on the good stuff. I know there are a lot of blogs out there about happiness and inspiration, and finding and following your dreams, and I intend on finding my own list of favorites. I named this blog after my favorite things: kittens, pretty things (such as ribbons) and desserts (e.g. pie) - the blog title was "Kittens, Ribbons and Pie, Oh My!" - , as they are things that make me happy. It will be a sort-of yellow-brick road to happiness and self-acceptance. I want to train myself to focus on the good things in life. In the same way you train a dog to behave, you teach your children the ways of the world, and you learn math & physics at university, I'm sure you can learn to give, to be thankful, to be happy with what you've got, to love others openly and unconditionally, and especially to love yourself.
In the next months, I'm going to :
- Love others by continuing to be kind and generous to others. I'm going to start doing nice things anonymously or without expectations.
- Love life by focusing on things that make me happy. I'll start being consciously grateful, keep lists of good things in life and find ways of enjoying everything around me and keeping positive as much as possible.
- Love myself by finding the ways that I can grow and become the loving positive person I see in my future.
So, here's to happiness!
Love,
Miss K
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